Little things making big changes

Just lately I’ve really tried to focus on self care. That doesn’t mean I’m practising yoga or mindfulness every night- I’m just doing simple things that make me feel good and focusing on how I can better myself. So far, I’ve been looking at the following…..
 
Positivity-
Not always easy, trust me I know! We could have 100 good things going on in our lives but if there is one negative, we will become completely consumed by it and forget all the good. I’ve started to finish my day thinking of 3 positive things that happened that day. It could have been a complete disaster of a day, but there are always positives even if it’s the fact that you got through the day or have a comfy bed to end the night in! There are so many negatives going on in the world and sometimes we just need to remind ourselves of how many amazing things happen in the world that we live in.

The people you surround yourself with-
I only have people in my life that add to my life. These people make me feel good about myself, make me laugh on a daily basis and create memories with me from simple walks & coffee dates to trips or nights away. They are people that make my smile bigger and my laugh louder and most importantly they fill my heart on a daily basis. They accept me exactly how I am and try to understand my journey and support me every day. These people contribute to my wellbeing in a million ways and most of the time without even realising. Having the right people in your life is so so important- friends should love, support and empower you – if people are doing anything to bring you down or not treat you right, are they really worth it? We tend to accept the treatment that we think we deserve- rewind 12 months ago and any one could say or do anything and I would 100% accept it regardless of how negative it was. I’m learning to value my self and that starts with the people around me- my circle of people are the reason I am who I am today and I wouldn’t change them for the world.
Balance –
 I spoke a lot about balance in my previous blog post, so I wont ramble too much about this. I honestly believe balance is key wether its balancing food, exercise, social life, work etc. Having a good balance in life is so important. I’m naturally an all or nothing type of person but I’m slowly but surely getting better at this!
‘Down time’-
 I’ve recently started to appreciate the importance of down time. For me this is all about taking some time away from the chaos of day to day life and taking time to have a long soak in the bath, go for a walk or get stuck in to series on Netflix with some decent snacks! Either way it’s taking time for yourself and no matter what your brain tells you – it’s needed and definitely isnt a waste of time!

Ambitions-
Have dreams & goals and work towards them!!! Don’t ever settle for what you think is acceptable or achievable. If you have things you want to do or see then the only person stopping you is yourself- I learnt this when I was unwell with my eating disorder- no matter how much support you have around you – nobody can save you until you decide to save yourself! That lesson can be used in all walks of life- if you want to go to university- do your research, work towards it and make it happen. Want to start a blog? Sit at your laptop and start writing! We often feel like we have limits that stop us from achieving our dreams but our biggest limit is ourselves. I’ve started to live by the saying ‘better so what than what if’. I’d much rather try to do something than sit in years to come regretting the fact that I never tried. I have so many goals and ambitions which I’ll save for another post but just so you know I’m not all talk… One of my biggest loves is travelling and I’ve always said I’d love to see Bali. So, I made a savings plan, my flights are now booked and I’m heading out there in October and I wont know a single person out there! Am I scared? Yep but as they say, if it doesn’t challenge you- it won’t change you!

Moral of the blog post? We often get so caught up in life that we forget to really look after ourselves and do what makes us happy. Those are some of the things I’ve added/changed in my life to look after me. Don’t live your life trying to please everyone around you because honestly, that’s just not possible and at the end of the day- this is your life- live it in a way that pleases you, not a way that meets others expectations.

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